HW 58 - Prom Interviews

Mitchel 28
leticia: Heyyyy
Mitchel:  whats up letty
Leticia:  So can I ask you some thinngs about prom?
Mitchel: sure
Leticia:  What is prom to you?
Mitchel:  Prom.. I think its suppose to be  and could be a special event. The reason why I say that because  media and my friends talk about its like if its a big deal. They told me they had a good time, but I didn't go because I did not have date.  But I do wish I went...
Leticia:  if you went,  it would have been rite passage/an adult?
Mitchel: No,  it would have made me feel like I was part of something. I do go out to partys and look formal when I have too. But I was really mad that all my friend had a date, but me. So I just went to the after party, because at parties it would have not matter if came With some one or not.. It would have just been a party. But prom is different its not just a party, you are gathering with students from school that travled and grown with for a couple of years.
Leticia: If you went, what would have happen?
Mitchel: I think I would have a good time, with the girl of my dreams or not. I just wanted to go with a girl
Leticia:  So you regate not going to prom?
Mitchel: I do.. Thats why When i have kids, i will support them to go, even if they going with a friend.. why not?. just have a good time.

Brideget 18:Leticia:  Bridget!.. Have not seen you since you moved to long island
Bridget::  Hi, omg Leticia. Thats how it started, later into the converstation  I ask.
Leticia:.  How was your prom?
Bridget: It was crazy, There were cops a fight happned, my dress!!.
Leticia: Cops!, right, your dress?.. details.
Brideget: Well let me frist tell you that I spent about 800 dollars on my dress.. I looked like a queen, That was out theam at my school.  Fairy tale.  I was also  the prom queen and my boyfriend was the king.
Leticia: You must have been excited, was there any hensitation about you going to prom?
Brideget: No, I was so happy that I was prom queen, I had to go. I was really nervous.
Leticia:  So nothing could have changed your mind?
Brideget: Nope, If my boyfriend & I broke up.. I could have went with another boy. .. Maybe a pimple would have stoped me... I was really hopeing I did not get my period.
Letica: Is there anything you would like to change?
Brideget: No, I really did enjoy my prom.. Im glad I went, I would have still gone if I was not prom queen.
Leticia:  Was there any regret?
Brideget: Nooo, I did drink after .. but I do remeber somethings and I had fun with my boyfriend .
Leticia: So you think following the American triadation of prom, is imporatnt?
Brideget: Yes, but I do aslo think that everybody should have a prom no matter what background. Its a thing to enjoy. Some adive, dont think to hard, just let the night flow.
Leticia: Thanks Brideget.. This was a great conversation, we should meet up soon.

HW 57 - Initial Thoughts on Prom

When I think of prom , I just think of a whole bunch of students from Sof looking really nice and enjoying each other company.  I actually was not thinking about prom until about 2 months ago, my friends kept talking about it, so I started to think about it more. I was not sure who I wanted to go with, even if I do have a boyfriend.. but I wanted to go with someone else, but no one had the balls to ask me out.. & I figured everybody in my school and class was already paired up with someone, so I ask my boyfriend to come with me and he was cool with that.  I am excited because I will be in a different environment with the students in my school, I will be not another at prom, not just because its prom but because outside of school, I can say I’m different.   This also a chance to see people in other situations and not just in school, which I think is pretty interesting.  We have different characters once we are not in school.  I feel like mine is not going to be a fairy tale, I know it’s not going to be. I am not taking a limo but a cab, I just in special occasions when I have too, I spend my own money, so i choose wisely on what I going to buy.  I do want the night to go well, just like any other night.  I look forward to seeing people there. 

  Prom List for me:

1. I can't go crazy because my teachers are going to be there

2. I am going to have some heals on, don’t want to bust my face open

3. I don’t want to mess up my dress.

4. I just would like to have a good time A question I have , is how do the people who get to go twice feel?.. Is it a different feeling or the same?

Do people really lose their virginity on prom night? And why?

Having prom does it cause people to become closer? Is there a difference?

Can prom really have an impact?.

xc - COTD2. Watch "Harold & Maude"

Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are - Cat Stevens

Harold:

Does not take death serious... He would fake his death all the time. He is very sarcastic and gets pleasure of faking it, it’s kind of like he playing with his mother emotions. He takes casual visits to funerals. I think Harold does this to get attention, because funerals and death are ways people come together to think about the good times they had with this person. Harold is his mother only child and they are wealthy, this could be a way for Harold to show his mother, his way of communicating.   Harold meets Maude at a funeral and they become good friends.  He questions her why does she do wrong things to people... she says people can’t get attach to things to it’s the right thing to do. Ever since they met, he wants to live life the fullest.  I soon discovered that his death obsession happened when he was in boarding school, in science class, a fire happened   everybody in the school thought he died. He came home but his mother did not know he was home; the police came and told her that Harold he was dead. His mother reacted in such sad way, which trigged him to enjoyed acting dead.  When he told Maude the story she said “People enjoy being dead, but they are alive”.  After a while his mother became immune to his behavior, even though she does not enjoy it.  His mother wants to help him, so she thinks taking him  to the army will help, When his mother sent him to meet the Sargent, he faked  acting mad  towards killing someone,  Maude showed up .. and She fell into a “hole”. Now he does not have to go to the army.  When Maude died, he felt very sad for couple of days, but he coped with her death by making his car jump over the cliff, and playing Cat Stevens

* Every one as the right to make an ass out of them, can't let the world judge you all the time

*He meets sunshine, and she is actors, he plays a death joke on her.. But she acts along, so it does not work.  She was not fooled by his actions.

He propose to Maude and she tossed it in the river, she told him.. She accepted and she is happy, so there is no point of having a ring.   Their marriage is in her house in a room full of the same flowers, but  I do remember  her saying  that  she does not want to be like everybody else, but she gets married? He told her, he loved her, she said go lover some more.

Maude:

An older woman about (79) also is obsessive over deaths/life, she makes visits to church and funerals, and they meet at a church. She is a wild women, does what she wants breaks the rules, steals people cars.  She says people don’t need to attach to things but, in her house she holds things she likes.  "She does not want to be a daisy because they are all the same" They spent the whole day together and did crazy things.

* I like to watch things grow, change and bloom. And turn into something else.

*Take life as it is. Don’t hold on to things, when change comes it would be even better.

*IF you want to be free, if you to be me, and if you want to be you be you. There is a million things to do.

Harold mom:

Seems to traditional mother, having people over for dinner most of the time, she dresses proper her attitude cares of what people think.   Harold mother dealt with Harold behavior for a while, she does not react in a way that she cares but does not wish he does that, so she send him to a psychology.  She wants her son to be "normal", she sets up dates for him, while he plays death jokes on them, and he smiles.  His mother drafts him to the army.

I thought it was weird how her reactions to Harold behavior were normal, but then again she wanted to help him. She did not tell him to stop, she ignored his actions.  I think that’s why he continued with his death behavior. I also think the reason why Maude became friends with Harold was because she needed help coping with her own feelings, and Harold fell in love with her, even though in her mind she was not looking for that. When she turned 80, she took a dose of a drug, she wanted to die, even though she explained to Harold life goes on.. So then why she wanted to end it?. She said she was happy?, but by her coping with her own feelings, she also helped Harold with his own.

HW 55 - Culminating Project - Care of the Dead

The Road

"A post-apocalyptic tale of a man and his son trying to survive by any means possible. "-
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0898367/

Movie Trailer:
http://youtu.be/hbLgszfXTAY

The Road is about a father and a son surviving for their life every day, this seemed to be the most important thing when the "world ended", the people that survived is facing everyday tackles.  As the father and the son, live each day their appearance change, eating habits change and their morals change.  Both try to survive for food and emotional strength.  There was a scene in the movie, they entered a home and thought they no one was in the house, as they search the house looking for hope, the herd noises down stairs.  The dark room, had people in eating each other and crying for help. Once the father and son saw this, they ran upstairs and hid in the bathroom, where they saw other people body parts and bath full of blood.  At this point the father freaked and pulled out a gun to kill his son because, he did not want him or his son to die, due to people eating them alive.

I think this movie relates to our care of the dead and illness unit, both father and son has seen people die in front of their eyes. The father is very ill and the son lost his mother when the world ended, they both struggle emotional, while the son feels he is the only young boy and wants everything to better for him and his father; the father does not feel the same. The problem of this survival is that the father is very sick; he wants to reach to their desire place, where things are much better. But due to his sickness his son might make it alone, and he reminds his son every day that they could die. They want to believe that things could be better for them, try to keep a happy mind set, but due to no food they might not make it alive. There was scene in the movie, and they found abandoned house with a whole bunch of food and a place for shelter, the son was very delighted and felt that they will survive because of this new place they found. The father did not want the son to get too comfortable because this will not be place where they will be staying. As they both snacked on food they hadn't had for couple of months, this is something that helped with their emotions by having all this food, it was like hope.   The son was tired of just having a piece of bread and sharing between the two and that will be their only meal. As this is going on the son does not realize that he so far just sink and bone, he knows that he gets hungry but does not notice his outer appearance while his father does, when the son saw an image of himself, he got scared and ask his father was that really him and why is he so skinny the father responded, you always been skinny.  As days go's by the son notices that his father is coughing blood and is getting  weaker, they soon walk to a beach, this made the father happy as though this what he was hoping to see, a peaceful ending for him. They stayed for about a couple of hours and the father is near his death. The son is heartbroken, the only friend and caring person is leaving his life, they both survived through many things and now his father will not be there no more. This part of the scene when his father dies and takes his last breath was something that trigged my heart, the only close person to him, the person he looked up and spoke to everyday have died.

I think it’s sad and beautiful how the father died, he died by the beach, it seemed this is where he thought it would be peaceful for him to die due to the condition they were both in, but what was  that his father real death wishes?. What if the movie made it where the son survived and spoke about him and his father survival? Did his father died because he was already sick or because lack of food.  This movie made me think about the people close to me, and how if they were to die I want it to be, how they wished their funeral to be.

HW 52 - Third Third of the COTD Book

Précis:  Each chapter contains a new experience that June accoutered.  Overcoming Tragedy, The son who learned from his mother’s Suicide, The New Born Whose life was stolen.  A mortician's Diary......~~~

 Published: 2006

Morticians Dairy:

1. "In This way I learned that even though life sends us difficulties, it also sends small comforts to help us along the way".(pg 64). The reason why I like this quote is because even though her mother was very ill, she didn't want to show sadness, she wanted her mother to become a stronger person. And when difficulties come into our life, I feel like we have to figure out ways to make the outcome better.

The Son Who learned from his mother's suicide:

2.  I explained to him that I'd heard of other suicide victims who had seemed happy once they'd made the decision kill themselves, perhaps because they feel relieved that their pain will end soon"(pg70).  When I heard this I was confused, but it makes sense, When I'm sad, I rather pain be taken away for a second then a whole hour.. & my Mind does it, by the end of the day I would have forgotten what happen... But if someone was to bring the subject again it would have made me sad again because its sensitive. His mother taken her life away was a second she wanted her pain to go away.

The New Born Whose life was stolen:

3. " Dr. Dixon inserted the forceps to turn the baby; the forceps evidently got tangled in the cord and ripped it out of the umbilicus. The baby bled to death before it could be born"(pg73). This quote made think about the movie Business of being bore, when the midwife did not know that the baby, was going to be 3 pound, and if the lady would have delivered the baby naturally it could have died.  This relates because we believe in doctors and midwives, this case they both made mistake.

Reading this book, reminds me of when I read Tuesdays with Morrie, because Morrie was an old man disgoused with ALS and he didn't let that interfere with his life. Kept a close relationships with one of his students Mitch. Every Tuesday Morrie and Mitch will meettup and talk about life, things that happen to Morrie and in Mitch life too.  Morrie wanted Mitch to understand that it never the ends of things because they are plenty of ways to make things better. In Mortician Diaries June, has been around death her whole life, she felt that growing up in a farm helped her understand nature’s way of letting things die. June also dealt with situations in her life, which she learned instead of it letting it take over her life. Her being Mortician , was her way of helping people that she would her best job to make the funeral of a friend or family member a good experience, she tends to relate what happened to a patient to herself, if it was a kid that died, man or women... I think it’s because a lot of people in her life died (So I think she feels connected) this is why she ends up being close friends with the person that lost a family member. Us people connected our own emotions to help someone else cope with their own.

HW 51 - Second Third of COTD Book

Precis: June Nadel a mortician, Finished talking to a mother  who lost her  new born son  his  because esophagus  was swallon and  the doctor came to late.  In this part of the book, she spoke about people coping with the death with a family member or a friend.  This will also be the frist time she buried a dog and losing a close friend.

Qoutes:

" Jim opened his car door for me. I laid the baby on the seat." How'd you do it?" he asked. My larynx hurt as though hands were clasped around it like a vise. Hoping he couldn't hear my sadness, I said softly " When you become a mother, you won't ask such dumb questions"pg 24

"Admired her for wanting to give her childern a lesson on death and showing them one way to cope with it. I acquiesced,  I never  done this before, but its not impossible." pg 27

" My own childern were to work with me on occasions.  It was simply  a part of their lives. Without my prompting, they chose their own caskets by the age of ten." pg 30

" I was angry with God for not " taking care" of Erma. Her death seemed grossly unfair." pg 41

Analysis: 

This chapter explains the cope of someone’s death, She nerved buried a dog before but she did it because she liked the fact that the lady violet wanted to teach her children about death.  June realized she rather have someone cope with death than have a misunderstanding about it. When June helped the lady with the child that died because she is a mother herself, she wanted the lady to understand that her baby died and it’s time for her to let go, but while she took the baby, she felt bad because of the sadness she will be dealing with. What I noticed about June is that even though she is a mortician, it was hard for her to deal with her friend’s death, she had the same thoughts of a person who misunderstands death, which I thoughts was interesting.  June does not seemed confused about death, or have lack of knowledge helping people with death. She is a kind and sincere to people that have anxiety about death.

HW 49 - Comments on Best of Your Break HW

Hi Amon this is Leticia,

In Your blog i liked how you mentioned that its more about respect of the dead, then the actual death. “I’ve seen both the traditional American way as well as the Japanese way, and they both mainly focus on paying respect to the dead". This probably explains why people say rest in peace and they are in a better place... To devote to the person that they are being appreciate. I can relate, to not feeling the same way when a person died, because my friend could be sad, and I feel weird because I'm not sad. “This made me feel guilty, not because of the loss but because I did not feel the same way”. When I saw this sentence It made think about the many times I felt uncomfortabl

Hi Dima This is leticia
"Death still the most terrible thing in the life and I am sure a lot of the people thinks in the same way and this is the most part of the people in the world who scared about the death and don't want to discuss this topic at all because everyone feels differently"
I disagree with the frist line because I think death is natural and its something that happens daily. I think how a person dies could be a terrible thing death but not death its self. e because someone was crying or when I didn’t feel bad about something.