HW 41 - Independent Research

This wedsite  is about  the process of adopotion  and  who gave/ giving brith  that would like to adpote.
http://staging.americanadoptions.com/

An adoption story: A women name Cherly was not able to ferterilze due to many atamps with her husband.  Cherly always thought about adoption  but her husband wanted to creat an creation of his own and not someone elses. But this began to change when Cherly wanted a child.. So they went to look for adoption.  They waited for about  six years to have a child. And they finally had a boy name  Chase.

"Once Cheryl completed their last round of infertility treatments without success, she knew that was it – she had had enough. She had no issues moving from infertility to exploring the prospects of adoption. Craig, however, wasn’t as keen on the idea as was Cheryl.

“The hardest part for me was deciding to adopt. I was opposed to it from the beginning,” Craig said.

Craig, like many other men who have dealt with infertility in their marriage, was against adoption because he didn’t want to raise “someone else’s kid.” Naturally, Craig wanted to continue his bloodline.
( http://www.americanadoptions.com/adopt/story_view/testimonial_id/231)


Thsi article is about women who felt the need to adoption because they were froce and told they couldnt be mothers  -
Dr Hames said the mothers were not allowed to bond with their children, were often heavily drugged with medication and had barriers placed between them and their babies.

"They weren't told the sex, they certainly weren't allowed to see or touch the baby,'' he said.

"Many of these women have not gone on to have children. They have been so traumatised.''

Dr Hames said the apology was not about compensation for the mothers or a criticism of parents who adopted the children.

"What they (the mothers) say to me is not that they want compensation. It is that they want to have somebody recognise that what happened to them was wrong and, hopefully, will never ever happen again,'' - (.http://www.perthnow.com.au/news/western-australia/wa-government-apologises-to-unwed-mums/story-e6frg14c-1225940839634)

HW 59 - SOF Prom 2011

If you participate in prom this week, please write up a 2-4 paragraph analysis of how the experience you and others shared relates to what we've learned. Which ideas or observations from the course resonate with what you noticed in real life? Which ideas or observations seemed off-base in light of Thursday night? What insights seem more available to you as a direct-participant rather than just a student of the ritual? What costs and benefits did you notice from having thought about the topic in a scholarly way before experiencing it for yourself? Did prom feel magic & transformative or did those expectations strike you as hype?

Going to prom, was a fun night. It went the way I planned to have fun and not be self-conscious . I felt nice and well dress that day and I didn’t care much what people thought.  People even brought their friends and it was not a big deal to have a date or not.  My boyfriend enjoys himself too (I was hoping he did because he did not know anyone) and it was welcoming. The way prom was set up and the value of our school made prom seem a comfortable event. We all supported each other to go; it was not to get drunk or laid, but to have a good night. And for those who did not go, should not feel guilty but to think there will be another event in their life they will enjoy.  I don’t think anyone felt the need to feel like a celebrity.. Yes people came in limos but it’s not even like anyone paid mind. It would have been different if we were all in a bigger school and there is a prom king & queen which put pressure on the students.  Yes I wanted go because it was something to  do and a day to dress nice but I did feel like if I did not go it will be a night that I missed.  Not magical but sweet night, everyone made sure they had a good night.  That day all the guys dress up and ladies get to see them in something different, as well the ladies to feel special in a school event. Our unit of prom did not change my mind set of prom because I did not grow for prom to be a night to lose my virginity, drink or mini wedding. But to be part of a school event.

Hw 56

Leticia,

I like the way you offered a summary of the tale. I think your connection to the death unit is valid. It is important for us to look at this unit as a way to interpret our own fears and wishes for ourselves and those that we love. I know that my own recent experience with my Grandmother's death was bittersweet. She died at age 94, in her sleep. Her wish was to finally be with my grandfather who died nearly 25 years ago. It was a profound experience for me, as often times, it is through a person's death that we find the most meaning in our own lives. i know you enjoyed "Tuesday's with Morrie" and I wonder how you might connect this film to that text and the experiences and different point of view that the author had in contrast to this lesson.

Here are a few questions to think about: Do you think that it is human nature for people to find ways to survive, even under the most stressful situations? Why do you think the story-teller use a father-son relationship? Would it have been less touching if it would have been friends or strangers? Can you think of another book or movie that uses non-relatives to tell a story about survival?

Why do you think it is significant that they were able to share a meal together and that made the son think that everything would be ok? What is it about a family meal that offers comfort to people, even in a dire situation?

Melissa .

Hi Melissa,

Thank you for commenting my blog,  =)

In Tuesday with Morrie, I like that fact they had a connection for years, it was like nothing could have broken there bond. It was important for Morrie to stay in touch with Mitch, and through their conversations and their own experience, they both taught each other what it feels like to have somebody grow emotionally and mentally for years. Morrie being sick and not afraid of dying, made things ease for him, but for Mitch a friend/ father/professor figure.  They both have such positive influences in on each other, which make one look after the other. In the Road, The father did not want to get comfortable or have a sense of hope, like the son. He wanted his son to not be emotionally weak. To be prepared to kill someone or to act aggressive, but the son felt since everyone is in the same conditioned there is no need for negativity.  Morrie taught Mitch to be aware of his feelings and to talk about whatever is on his mind.  In The Road, The father taught his son about the things he never thought he had to face, Killing and fighting for survival. It was important for them to have good meal time even if it was a piece of bread or a big meal, it was a time for both the father and son to forget/ remember able moments, dinner time was a time for them to be great full. Which how it is for my family we enjoy the food that’s given to us.  In Tuesday with Morrie, Tuesday was a special day to have lunch and it affected them for a life time. In Tuesday with Morrie and The Road, both explain the difficulties to lose someone close to you.   For me that’s what I am most afraid of. Each Character had to face the reality of someone’s death.  I think it explains the importance of having relationships with people, it feeds our souls. Meeting people teach us how to eat, think, value things differently.   It’s also very intimate and personal. When things become personal it becomes harder to break and it just keeps growing.