HW 27 - Visiting an unwell person

For this homework I did not go to the Hospital nor did I want to, I only know one person that is sick, my mother.

My mother was in the hospital before the break, she was there for about a day, but she was constantly going to doctor’s apportionments. My mother was sick before she even noticed; it first turned into a really bad cough, when I started noticing that it didn't sound just like a cold but something serious. My mother does not like to tell my sister or me what’s the real deal with her. When I found out why my mother is sick, she said as though I shouldn't have to worry. It turns out there were two lumps on her breast (scary) this is something I did not know about until it got pretty serious and she had to let my sister and I know. I found out in the end of November, but it wasn't clicking in my head that my mother might have cancer, and I did not want to think about (Denial). While all of this is happening, it had to happen during the sick and dying unit (weird).  I never seen my mother this sick, but I did noticed she was losing a lot of weight ,even though she does have the Lap -Band for about 3 years . This controls the amount of food that goes into her mouth, but if she puts too much the food just goes back up. Sometimes they tighten so that she can't eat, only liquids.  This is something I did not agree on, I did not want my mother to get the Lap-Band because I felt that was not a safe way to lose weight. She did not listen; the doctors convened her to get it, now she does not have a serious case of diabetes. As this "cold" goes by my mother was looking sick, I kept asking what was wrong but she wouldn't say. I thought about when our guess speaker Beth spoke about her husband losing weight, and making excuses for how they were feeling inside.

An illness of one person can change the whole vibe in the family; this is something I did not think about.  This is where the family will visit and call more often than usual.  When I think of my uncles or my aunts and my mother, I want them to age beautifully and nothing to be wrong with them but to die of old age. I want this to be for generations, I hate the fact my mother is sick and so is my aunt.  This makes me question, how do we really keep our body healthy? Will our body will be ever just be healthy? I don’t know if this is possible anymore. Why did my mother get sick? Was it because she not taking care of herself and over working? Was it her fault? Who fault is it? I guess a person knows when they are getting sick but they will do anything to cover it until it does not work anymore.