HW 36 - Pregnancy & Birth Stories

So I did not have time to interview pregnant people but interviewed people who already had babies
2/22/10 After I clocked out.
Jocey my manger at strarbucks 32
did two years of old college:
Me: So how are you today?
Jocey: Tried, you know the deal leticia. Eight hour shift or more. I miss my childern right now.
Me: Yes your childern, How old where when you had your first child?.
Jocey: 20 and I was still working in starbucks.
Me:  How did you feel working while you had new born baby?
Jocey: What can I do? I had to support my child. My mother took care of him while I worked and I spent time with him on my days off, It was hard , I missed him and I wish I could have been there through whole time, not just the 4months of his life but through the days where I did have to work. 
Me: Did the same feeling applied when you had your other three kids?
Jocey: Well, This time I knew how to deal with it, And I was more stable because I had my mother support and the father of my kids support. I knew my childern would still love me even when im not home. You know. I wanted to work and have kids. My job is my job, but my personal life is something that I had to build. And my kids are everything to me, they make me smile when I come home.
 Jocey:  I work hard though, I went from a Brista, to general Manger I love this store and im glad im back, But just sometimes I want to be home with my kids.
Me: Thank you Jocey
Jocey: Your welcome lettie, Now your working tommrow   right ?
 Me: yes

2/24/11
A friend of mine
Jillian 20 years old
Finished high school.
When I went to the store
Me: Heyy  Jillian
Jillian:  Whats up leticia
Me: Can I ask you a couple questions for school?
Jillian: Yeah, ask all you want.
Me : Arlight, Well old where when you had you first child,
Jillian : I just had a baby
Me : Do you work?
Jillian :  No,  But before I had the baby I did, I worked at foot locker, That's when I was doing pretty good.
Me : Is everything okay now?
Jillian:  No  but yes. Yes because I have my child. But No because I'm supporting my child on my  own.
Jillian: I don't have somebody to take care of her right now. My mother works and the father of the child is no around. So Its just me.
Jillian: This means for right now, I will be with her. When she gets a little big, I will do what I can to find a job and I can probably find a night job so I can work. And when my mother comes home she can watch the baby.
Me:
Jillian : Well I  have to go now
 Me: Alright talk  to you later, Thank you
Jillian: Your welcome


I stoped by after I got off of work it was about 12 in the afternoon
12/24/11
Mcdonals Manger
Finshed highschool but wants to go to college:
Stephani 19
Me : Hola stephani, Stephani can ask you couple questions for school?
Stephani: yeah if its for school but chop chop, I have to be in the clock in a few.
Me. Alright.
Me : How old where, when you had your baby?
Stephani: You already know 18 years old. Ask me another question.
Me : How did it feel to work while you have a baby?
Stephani: Well since, im the baby of the family, My mom takes care of the baby and so does my cousin because they have kids too. And the baby of my father is around, So when I work  he does not have to. But because I have the support I can work.
Me:What did you do, while pregnant, to prepare for giving birth?
Stephani: I made sure that I was still able to keep my job.
Me : Do feel that you had enough time off to take care of the baby?
Stephani:. I was gone for about 3 months, but I had to get back to work, even though I have people taking care of my child. My mother wants  me to have my own apartment and I have bills to pay. But its okay. The job needed me back anyways.  If I wanted to stay longer I couldn't.
Me: If you where able to have a longer break with your child, would  you take it?
Stephani: Yeah I think so?, I had three months off I think another month would have been okay, I felt like I needed sometime to myself too.
Stephani: Everything seems fine. It gets frustrating, baby and work. Its like im working double, and manger
Stephani: Time is over, Thanks for asking these questions.
Me: Thank you, have a good night.

This unit made me think about the process of women having a baby, but doing these interviews also made me think about what about after they give birth? what’s happens?  These interviews answer that question. I interviewed women that work for living and are trying to maintain they child or children.  They had to get back to business with or without support. From interviewing these women no one sound they were ready to give up but sound the accepted their life even though it might take an extra push, but a push they are willing to take to support their baby.  I noticed that these women, didn’t seem extra happy or sad about their boyfriend, not that it didn't matter but sounded they were okay with just being the parent of their child. In our culture the "happy family", are couples that are married and the husband worked but the mother is a house wife and has a little business of her own. But what about the women who are doing well, without a husband or boyfriend, who work very hard for their kids, No one seems to really support that figure? Why? Why women and men need to be together to show a stable family? I know women who are just a single but some look for that male figure or feel bad that their child don’t have that. Just living with my mother, my mother never mentioned "if only your dad was around" she never even bothered to make me have a male figure. She just wanted to maintain her kids the best way she can. I support that. Yes in the future, I would like the father of my child to be part of my child life and mine as well, but I don’t think if the father was not around it would make me mentioned " if only your dad was around".   We all wants best for our child… That’s what we all say.